I’m in this “Blogging U” class via WordPress. A couple of days ago, I got the following assignment:
“Today’s assignment: write a post that builds on one of the comments you left yesterday. Don’t forget to link to the other blog!”
Initially I wasn’t sure I was mentally “inspired” by any of the blogs I’d read, at least not in the way that’d warrant a specific post dedicated just to that. But then I read an amazing post called “Reasons You Should Date A Yoga Girl” on a site I followed called “GlamourGuilty.” Click HERE for the link 🙂
Now before y’all go judging the sites I follow, I want to justify this one with two things. 1) The writer talks about fitness and dieting a lot. Fitness is something I’m getting better at, while eating healthy is something I’m completely lost at. Girls/Women tend to be more concerned about their body image than guys, and moms tend to be more concerned about healthy diets than about anyone else (which she is), so why not go to them for advice on how to maintain a healthy body if you can. And 2) The author is just a good writer. 🙂
So with that said here’s what jumped out and inspired me in this post. There were a couple of them actually. First:
“She cares about you, and she is excited to hear about your day, but she isn’t thinking about you all the time. Girl’s got her own thoughts to worry about!”
“The girl who is addicted to yoga knows that nothing is perfect, and she has learned to hold people, and herself, to a realistic standard. She values her life and what she has rather than worrying about things she does not have.”
What makes me smile about this and inspires me about it is actually the truth that there’s so much to this. Girls who practice yoga, in this world where body image seems to be all that matters for them sometimes, really do have a certain swagger to them. In the year I’ve now been practicing, I’ve been amazed at just how confident yogi’s tend to be. It’s encouraging and sometimes slightly intimidating to be around people who are just so…grounded. At the same time though, it makes you as a guy, or at least me, eager to come back and chat more with them. They don’t mind random conversations, and they’re incredibly friendly, but not so much as to seem dependent on you as the person starting the conversation. Girl Yogi’s (I capitalize both words out of respect for the nature of both) are friendly but seem completely in control when you talk to them. Sure, they may have enough energy to outplay a room full of elementary kids, but there’s just an aura of pure calm to the way they speak, especially the veteran ones who I know that teach. You can strike a conversation with them and never feel like you’re forcing, but never feel like you’re dragging it along either.
In other words, you can tell that just like this wonderful writer said, they like you, they enjoy you, but they’ve got their own stuff to deal with too, so they won’t be mad if you only have time for a few words. While I’ve never dated a Yogi, at least in my casual interactions with them I realize this doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships, but to new friendships as well. And, it kind of inspires me to see it stated so plainly by the previous writer, because that approach that Yoga Girls possess is something we all could benefit from learning to use in our own lives as well. I know I could :).
As for the second quote above, I love how truly it talks about Yoga Girls setting realistic expectations on herself and others, to include her relationships. This is something that really resonates with me because I believe before this year I was in the habit of placing too much pressure on relationships with higher expectations than those relationships were ready for. My amazing girlfriend Caitlyn said something a few weeks ago that brought that to my attention, and it blew my mind. I’ve gone through so much anguish at friendships that didn’t work out because I was so excited for them to “become more” that I just didn’t celebrate them as they were happening. A major theme this year for me, in fact my whole primary goal this year, is to focus on not doing that anymore.
The idea that Yoga Girls tend to value what they have, rather than what maybe could be, is so vital a lesson for us as adults to learn. I love how the writer addressed that.
It’s also one more reason Yoga Girls are completely out of my “league” 😉 lol 😀
Check out Vanessa’s website for more great stuff like this: https://glamourguilty.wordpress.com
In the meantime. Hats off to all you Girl Yogi’s out there. 🙂